4 Common Reasons Why a Married Woman Loses Motivation About Having Sex With Her Husband

Posted on September 11, 2017 in Uncategorized

If asked what was more important to you, which option would you pick: cuddling with your husband or having sex him?

While many of us would say “Cuddling,” our husbands would probably take the sex!

Why?

For one, most men are more body-centered and sexually motivated than women. And we, on the other hand, are more relational and emotional.

While men will give affection to get sex, women will give sex to get affection. This difference of opinions can often cause conflict within the marriage.

I have often asked God why sex is so important to men, but not as much to women. One person said that if both the husband and wife had the same motivation about sex, nothing would ever get done. The kids, the house, and the dog would be neglected.

So God created us to balance one another out when it comes to our approach on sex. With this being said, one of the most major parts of marriage is sex. However, many women don’t enjoy sex and could ultimately live their entire lives without ever having sex with their husbands.

Below you will find four common reasons why women often lose motivation about having sex with their husbands:

1) Emotions. Women tend to be very emotional at different points in their lives. Much of it is hormonal, but some of it can be cultural or familial. For example, if a woman’s mother often allowed her hormones to rule her to where she was often “touchy” and sensitive about different situations, chances are this woman will learn to allow her hormones to rule her unless she makes a decision to rule her emotions instead.

2) Fatigue. As women, we are often a primary care giver for the children, especially if we stay at home. This role of being there for our children, (whether we work inside or outside of the home), is not uncommon because we are born nurturers. There’s also housework, mental fatigue, and many other things that can drain our energy throughout the day.

3) Preoccupation. In addition to being deprived of energy, we can become easily distracted when it comes to focusing on sex. Whether it’s a crying baby or a phone call we often establish a habit of allowing other things to take priority over our love lives.

4) Stress. Our emotions and preoccupation can build up which will ultimately lead to stress. What is stress? One dictionary calls stress a state of mental tension that causes feelings of worry or anxiety. Stress will completely cause any passion we have for our husbands to disappear because whatever we stress over will become our focal point in lives, and ultimately to take priority over having sex.

Emotions, fatigue, preoccupation, and stress are a common part of life. However, there are ways that we can put each one into proper perspective so we can obtain balance and experience an extraordinary sex life within the marriage relationship.

Sex Drive During Pregnancy

Posted on September 9, 2017 in Uncategorized

What is your sex drive like during Pregnancy?

Changes in sex drive
During pregnancy you may notice a lot of physical and emotional changes. Your breast size increases, and so does your belly. You could also experience severe mood swings and numerous changes in your sexual feelings. A lot of pregnant women could go through fluctuating sexual feelings during the whole nine months of pregnancy.

What does sex drive mean?
Sex drive refers to a person’s natural craving to have sex. It is also referred as libido. On attaining puberty, the pituitary gland in the brain, indicates the body to start generating sex hormones. These hormones aid in ovulation, menstruation and determine sex drive. A woman’s libido is ascertained by estrogen and progesterone levels. Physical well being and self-esteem also influences libido.

Sex drive when pregnant
During pregnancy, you may observe a change in your sex drive. It could either increase or decrease. Such changes are common and it is usually a normal part of pregnancy. It is not abnormal and its certainly not a cause to be worried about.

Usually, during the first trimester the sex drive could decrease due to morning sickness or fatigue. During the second trimester, the libido could increase as some women may feel more energetic. During the third trimester of pregnancy, libido levels could decrease as the belly increases as the time of birth approaches causing several discomforts in daily life. The concern of your baby’s safety could also have effects on your sex drive, mentally and physically.

Increase in sex drive
Many pregnant women may find that their sex drive has increased greatly during pregnancy. The reason for this is because of the increase in progesterone and estrogen levels that result in an increased libido and sexual satisfaction. These changes could enhance lubrication of the vagina, highly sensitive breasts and nipples and an increase in blood flow to the pelvis.

Decrease in sex drive
Some women could also face a severe reduction in libido during pregnancy which is also quite normal. Usually in the first trimester some woman could have morning sickness or experience fatigue which could reduce sex drive. Weight gain or changes in the body could make sex uncomfortable or self conscious. Some women could be concerned about the baby’s safety during sex which could also influence libido whether it be consciously or unconsciously.

Women who are interested in boosting their sex drive while pregnant should try a sexual gel or cream enhancer. During pregnancy most medications should be avoided unless stated otherwise by your doctor, even if its herbal. It would be best to consult with your doctor before taking any sexual enhancements in pill form or any other medications. A gel or cream would be safest form of sexual enhancement while pregnant.

Considering partner’s sex drive
One should consider your partner’s libido which could also change during the woman’s pregnancy. Some men may find their partners more sexy during pregnancy, while others may possibly find the opposite. Some men worry about the baby’s health which could reduce their sex drive consciously or unconsciously.

Handling sex drive when pregnant
In case you are worried about the changes in your sex drive, you could benefit by:
-Talking to your doctor about any changes in your sex drive and safe sex suggestions.
-Discuss with your partner ways to satisfy each others’ needs while taking the baby’s safety into consideration.
-Try sexual positions in which you feel comfortable to make sex pleasurable.
-Trying some sexual gel or cream enhancers for increased moisture, stimulation, and sensations.

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An Overview of a Good Sex Position During Pregnancy

Posted on September 8, 2017 in Uncategorized

Lots of people believe that having sex whilst the woman is pregnant may harm the baby. This is a misconception and there is always a good sex position during pregnancy a couple can try.

During a normal pregnancy with no complications sex is perfectly safe. It is advisable to speak your doctor if you experience vaginal bleeding or any abdominal pain before having sex. It is important to consider comfort for both partners when having sex during pregnancy. This covers both physical comfort and mental comfort. Discussing what feels comfortable and what both partners feel is acceptable is half way to achieving a healthy sex life during pregnancy.

An obvious issue is the size of the womans stomach during the later months but the breasts may also need to be handled more gently too as they will be more tender especially in the early months.

A good sex position during pregnancy to try is spooning; where both man and woman lie on their sides, with the man at the back, facing the womans back. This position is comfortable, keeps the weight off of the belly, and does not accommodate deep penetration, which can be uncomfortable later on in pregnancy.

Other popular sex positions during pregnancy are the woman on top where the woman is in control of the depth and angle of penetration unlike in spooning. The rear-entry position is where the woman kneels down on all fours. The man enters from behind, kneeling behind the woman. The woman can use pillows to support her bump and chest, especially during later pregnancy.

The missionary position is usually not comfortable for the woman. An alternative to try is for the woman to lie on the edge of the bed with the man kneeling in front of her.

The key to success with trying out different sex positions during pregnancy is communication. Finding out what works and is comfortable for both partners is important and both the woman and man have to be honest about what they want and feel.

In the case where the actual act of intercourse is not comfortable anymore, remember that there are other ways to be close and sexual with one another like giving a massage or oral sex.

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