Sex, Relationship and Health – Five Benefits of Sex

Sex is not just about raging hormones and fleeting pleasure. As a matter of fact, sex has a lot more to offer than you know. The more sex you have, the greater the benefits you receive from it. Modern science has proved that sex has wonderful benefits for your mental as well as physical well being. Indulging in sexual activity on a regular if not daily basis is known to offer benefits such as relief from stress, better sleep, and better health. These benefits, however, are just the tip of the iceberg. Read on to know some of the not so well known reasons why regular sex can make your life healthier and happier.

Sex helps to maintain body weight

Sex is a physically strenuous activity that helps you shed the extra pounds and look younger and healthier. 30 minutes of sex helps to burn about 150-200 calories. This does not sound like much but regular sex sessions help to burn many more calories. 42 sex sessions of 30 minutes each, for instance, can burn more than 3500 calories, which is quite substantial. Set up a schedule for sexual exercise and watch the flab melt away as you and your partner have fun. Sex is a great weight loss technique if your busy lifestyle leaves no time for workouts. It is also a fun way to get in shape when treadmills or aerobics get too boring.

Sex improves the immune system

Being sexually healthy usually means that you have great physical health too. Having sex twice or thrice a week has been associated with higher levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA) – an antibody that protects an individual from the common cold and other infectious diseases. IgA binds itself to pathogens when they try to enter your body and then boosts the immune system in order to destroy them. Those couples, who have sex regularly, about once or twice a week, have been reported to have higher levels of IgA than those who abstained from sex altogether or those who rarely indulged in sexual activity of any kind.

Sex can create a stronger bond between partners

Apart from its reproductive function, sex is often used as an instrument of pleasure and to express the emotional intimacy and love that you feel for your partner. Sexual intercourse is known to have a major role in bonding between partners and a means to share your pleasure. Great sex forms an emotional connection and awareness between you and your partner, while discussing your sex life can add a wider emotional and spiritual perspective to your relationship, resulting into a strengthened and resilient bond that can be strong enough to survive many emotional upheavals.

Sex improves the blood circulation

Regular sexual activity has been proved to improve blood circulation in your body and is particularly beneficial for the brain because it causes deep invigorating breaths and an increased heart rate. Improved circulation brings fresh oxygen-rich blood into your body and refreshes the cells and organs. Regular sex helps in the elimination of toxins from your body and prevents fatigue as well as a number of diseases.

Sex controls sugar levels

A number of clinical studies have proved that sexual activity helps in the breakdown of sugar molecules present in your body in order to provide protection from serious diseases such as diabetes.

The Art of Sex – 5 Hot Tips to Enjoy Love Making

The art of sex does not only require a strong physique, fitness, smart and curvy bodies. It also needs depth in mutual understanding, emotional attachment, warm feelings of caring and sharing for the spouse, erotic synchronization and true intimate love between two persons of opposite gender. The art of sex is not a time-bound activity. It is, in actual fact, a process of taking yourself to the height of heart-felt delight along with your partner. If the sole purpose of engaging in sex is enjoying it mutually, then you have to change your thinking pattern to that of a team-player.

There are still millions of married people around the globe, male spouses in particular, who just take sex as a pleasure-oriented ritual. They do not care about whether their soul-mates also enjoy the same level of physical union as they do. It is merely because their primary focus is initiating intromission, as soon as two nude bodies touch each other, to achieve orgasm. They do not understand the essence of the art of sex in marriage.

Marriage is a journey that you are bound to continue, on every single track of life whether it is social, financial, personal or sexual, in maximum harmony. Sex is neither the only activity of a marital relationship nor an occasional expedition. The art of sex is a combination of techniques, physical gestures, creative movements and a mutual desire to experience gratifying contentment. You do not have to be a qualified sexologist to learn the art of sex. Simply adopting and practicing the following hot tips can bring a sensational change in your sex life.

1. Be patient and avoid early intromission

Two exercises are very useful in building stamina; sit-ups for men and kaegel exercise for women to delay orgasm and it makes your sex more thrilling and rocking.

2. Prolong foreplay and delay touching genitalia at an early stage

The art of sex begins with foreplay that is more sensational and enjoyable in the whole episode of sex. You can enjoy every moment of foreplay provided you stop focusing on orgasm. Every part of human body, both male and female, has certain hot spots which erotically react to kissing and soft touching.

3. Try brushing kisses on erogenous zones before indulging in full kissing

Depending on the structure of the tissues of your lips, you can experiment brushing kisses on the whole body of your spouse or just on erogenous zones. The sizzling effect of a prickling tongue smoothly massaging your spouse’s body creates waves of incredible sensation through your own body too.

4. Use finger tips for soft caressing

Instead of using the whole hands, try soft caressing with finger tips that also radiate stirring currents of erotic energy.

5. Never skip a tongue massage during foreplay

Another colossal feature of the art of sex is tongue massage that runs from face to toes, using both the tip and the whole of your tongue, after taking a shower together. It would be like adding more spices to your pasta dish. I strongly suggest to avoid extreme oral sex during tongue massage. You can create many new body gestures to allure and appease your partner during foreplay making it a cherished experience for days and weeks. The only important factor in enjoying foreplay is synchronization of movements. It should be reciprocal to keep the fire continuously kindled.

The art of sex has no fixed limits and it is not worth much consideration as to where to start the foreplay. Just follow your emotions, your moods and the nature of ambiance which you have created or you are in by chance. It is advisable to have in-depth talks about foreplay that would also enhance an erotic rapport between both of you.

Spirituality and the Morality of Sex and Promiscuity

Myths abound surrounding the topics of sex, promiscuity, and spirituality.

Consider this anonymous feedback we received from “Emily”: “So two guys who obviously aren’t into commitment write about what a less-than-desirable ideal sexual commitment is, with no thought of feeding the kids. How very cool. Strong families are the bedrock for a strong city or state or nation. We must rise above promiscuity in order to achieve greater things and optimum survival for all. That’s what ethics is all about. The more preoccupied people become with sex, the less productive and less able they are to achieve spiritual, intellectual growth, and this would also apply to cities, states and nations. Therefore, this is not only about better survival for individuals, but also for our society and for all mankind.”

We have always promoted a healthy, responsible, and honest approach to dating, sex, and relationships. Clearly, this person is misrepresenting our writings.

The definition of “promiscuous,” according to Merriam-Webster dictionary, is “having many sexual partners.” Everyone has a different idea about how many sexual partners in a lifetime would put them in the “promiscuous” category.

Also, it’s important to note that the word promiscuous is also defined as “without discrimination,” as if one would sleep with anyone, anytime, no matter what. We believe that’s unhealthy and don’t advocate doing it. For this article, we define promiscuous as not limiting yourself to one partner, while being honest, safe, selective, cautious, and responsible.

“A promiscuous person is a person who is getting more sex than you are.” Victor Lownes

It’s shocking that someone would attempt to control the behavior of consenting adults–strangers they don’t even know–though it shouldn’t be if you consider how many control-freak busybodies there are in this world (e.g., bureaucrats, politicians, and lobbyists with a moral superiority complex). “Morals” are subjective and a judgmental, puritanical attitude is about as far from being spiritual as you can get.

“Chastity: The most unnatural of the sexual perversions.” Aldous Huxley

“Rising above promiscuity” has nothing to do with “achieving greater things and (the) optimum survival for all.” In fact, repressing your sexual urges can be dangerous because it results in perversion. There’s nothing wrong with consensual sex between adults, and a healthy sex life doesn’t diminish productivity or spiritual and intellectual growth–in fact it can absolutely enhance it once you get over your sexual hang-ups.

Mutually satisfying sex with one person exclusively over the course of a lifetime is a nice thought, but unfortunately it’s extraordinarily rare and pure fantasy for most people. When the sexual attraction dies (often after two to seven years) you can remain companions, but if that’s not fulfilling enough for you, do you really prefer a slow, inner death, just to prove to everyone your relationship can last 50 years? Attention all couples: more communication and honesty about this topic will decrease the risk of secret affairs.

Emily’s comment about, “no thought of feeding the kids,” is absolutely ironic because we are staunch advocates of putting the child first (i.e., creating a child contract rather than a marriage contract–we write about that concept previous articles), instead of the selfish needs of two unhappy adults who are trying, unsuccessfully, to conform to the nearly impossible expectations and demands of traditional marriage.

“Ethics” is all about transparency and honesty-a person can be monogamous or non-monogamous and still be ethical. The problem is when one is deceitful, such as when a married person cheats (and statistics show at least 50% of married people do cheat).

The survival and advancement of society and mankind requires, in part, productivity, responsibility, and integrity. It’s thwarted by unhappy people in sexless marriages, attempting to permanently uphold the fantasy of the nuclear family. An approximate 60% divorce rate, in addition to countless unhappy couples attempting to “make it work,” suggests that the prevailing marriage model is absolutely dysfunctional.

It’s okay to have believed the myth about promiscuity being evil; its perfectly acceptable and natural to have many sexual partners over the course of your life, as long as you are responsible, safe, and respectful.

Copyright © 2014 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo